What does it
really mean to meet our own needs? I have been thinking about this a lot
lately, as I feel strongly about self-sufficiency, but I try to remember, as
well, that we live in a world interdependent with others, that we necessarily depend on others even as
they depend on us. So, where does that leave us with this idea of meeting our
own needs?
I believe if we
treat ourselves with care, we will naturally treat others with care too, but it
all starts at home. Our ability to care for others in some honest, good-hearted
way is directly related to the way we do or do not meet our own needs—body mind, spirit and soul. This is why it is important to take seriously our
responsibility to look after ourselves.
By taking good
care of ourselves, we take good care of others.
For, if I am looking after myself the best I am able, then the people who surround me are free to do the same for themselves, leaving open the possibility for then relating together in a more open, free and authentic way.
For, if I am looking after myself the best I am able, then the people who surround me are free to do the same for themselves, leaving open the possibility for then relating together in a more open, free and authentic way.
Taking honest stock
of what our actual needs versus desires are is a good idea too. In fact,
this is really the crux of the matter because very often we confuse the two.
Then we look to sources outside ourselves for our happiness and fulfillment,
and become potential parasites in the life of other people (as they may with
us).
In this way, we risk creating co-dependent relationships rather than inter-dependent ones. Co-dependent relationships are energy draining and destructive, inter-dependent relationships are mutually energizing and life-enhancing.
In this way, we risk creating co-dependent relationships rather than inter-dependent ones. Co-dependent relationships are energy draining and destructive, inter-dependent relationships are mutually energizing and life-enhancing.
Lastly, keep in
mind, that your ability to meet your own needs is directly related to an
ability to be honest with yourself, regarding yourself.
You need to know something about who you are, something about the wisdom in just being yourself, if you are to be effective in your efforts at self-care.
You need to know something about who you are, something about the wisdom in just being yourself, if you are to be effective in your efforts at self-care.
Plumb your inner
depths and you will find a rich source of fulfillment and happiness. Meet your
own needs this way and you not only nourish yourself, but everyone you know as
well.
Inter-dependency
is an artful dance, make it fun, let it inspire you…
